Of course you can be considerate and ask for her preferences, what I'm referring to is showing your assertiveness through a display of leadership skills. I have never come across a woman that wants a follower, women want leaders.
Assertiveness, Self-Assurance And Leadership Skills in Men
No, you do not have to be the boss in a street gang nor a commanding officer in the military or the CEO of a Fortune 500 company(not to say those things aren't helpful), the specific leadership skills I'm talking about is leadership skills in a possible relationship.
Women aren't attracted to men with no backbone, or guys who aren't self-assured enough to make decisions and stick with them.
Here are a few ways men can be more assertive:
1. The restaurant brings you "not exactly what you ordered", politely tell the waiter so, most guys would not say anything, and that's the exact attitude that will let people think they can walk all over you, if you don't speak up.
Please remember that human beings, generally just can't help themselves to walk over someone that presents themselves as a doormat.
2. The boss insists for the second weekend in a row for you to work overtime, again 'politely' and respectfully say "no, I can't".
He will respect you more in the long run, and he might begin to ask more for your input, cause he knows you're self-assured enough to speak your mind.(please use proper judgment, I'm not keen on possibly getting someone fired here)
3. Be more direct with what you want from people, if you set a date with a woman, calmly tell her to be on time, if she fails to do so, again calmly tell her "this probably won't work if you're not punctual".
This sends her the right messages. I've had many successes saying this to a woman, it also gives them a challenge, which women enjoy.
4. Improve and control what your eyes convey to other people, you can receive a magnitude of information from what you glean from someones eyes.
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Oh, and women are observant as a hawk with a telescope.
It's should be easy to see why women love assertive men. Please feel free to share this article with a friend and/or your social network, thanks for visiting, also you're most welcome to follow me!