Wednesday, November 26, 2014

Women want Security, Emotional Safety, and Stability from a Relationship

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financial security in relationships
No matter how often women want to deny it, every woman wants to be and feel protected.

They want to feel perfectly safe with someone, and there's nothing more endearing to a woman than feeling protected.

Perhaps on a first date you can take her to do something exciting, i.e. indoor sky diving, or to a theme park with really scary roller-coasters, or to a very lesser extent, a scary horror movie.

Wait for an appropriate time and mood to tell her that "you're safe with me". Do this subtly, not like you had it planned.

what every woman wants

When I mentioned security, I meant financially. It's a hard truth that being secure financially is a major requisite of commitment for a woman.

Especially as we get further into the information age. I personally know many women that will not even consider going on a date with a man that doesn't have steady employment and a solid direction in life.

Although this is more anecdotal evidence, I highly doubt that it's just mere coincidence.

For me personally when the tables are reversed, I would rather be involved with a woman that had a steady career, with her own life, doing her own things.

It's just so much more attractive in my eyes. An articulate and gorgeous woman that can also pick up a check is sexy to me.

However, you will do well to keep in mind that not all women are alike, therefore not all women can be painted with the same brush, in a sense. This also includes a mental and emotional stability.

Women need to feel a sense of security, emotional safety, a mutual respect, and stability in a relationship. This is of course only if the woman in question is ready for a serious commitment.

Women that are still playing the field and currently in the dating phase will not necessarily require any of these male attributes.

So, if you're looking for the right woman to settle down with, work on possessing and displaying these three traits women look for in men.

Thus, it's easy to see why women want security and emotional stability from a relationship. Please feel free to share this article with a friend and/or your social network, thanks for visiting, also you're most welcome to follow me!

Wednesday, November 19, 2014

Be More Creative to Attract Women

This post deals with the mating value of male creativity. Not just women are drawn to people who are refreshingly original, everyone, man or woman can appreciate an individual that stands out in the crowd.

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Women love being around creative men
Being original also applies to how you plan your dates. For heaven sake, unless your date specifically asks to be taken to a dinner and a movie, take some time and figure something better to do on a date.

Here's a case in point to always listen to a woman you're interested in, so you can pick up what she likes, and what she doesn't like.. Honestly? I believe everyone has originality to them no matter how well it's hidden.

What you should really focus on, beside listening to self-appointed gurus that claim originality can be manufactured, is to be honest with yourself and learn how to express yourself without approval from others, especially the opposite sex.

"You'll never break any ground on finding the right woman for yourself, if you can't present to the world who you really are."

Be Original and Exude Creativity

Like your innate originality, I also believe that everyone is creative, but for a plethora of reasons will be hesitant in truly expressing themselves.

Everyone is different, so please keep in mind that I can only speak upon generalities, and not specifics.

Here are some methods to aid you in discovering your creative side:

1. Experiment. If you're starting from the bottom with no clue what your creative outlet is, you'll have to forge ahead and find out.

At the very least you can do a little research and find out what you possibly could be interested in--this is the information age, if you can't go on the internet and find something you're remotely interested in, you'll have more serious concerns than finding a date.

2. Share. For every interest there is on this planet, there's a group designed around that particular interest. Get out there and find an organization that is revolved around your shared field of interest. 

On the web, there's a digital club, group, or forum for virtually everything, join up and share. This will help build your confidence and there's a good chance you'll meet a woman with something already in common with her.

3. Family and friends. Simply ask people that you trust and confide in what makes you creative in their eyes.

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creative things to do
The people you keep around you know you the best, and should be able to give you great leads to find your creative outlet, once you find out what it is, incorporate in into your dating life. The more versatile you become, the less one-dimensional you will be to a woman.

The mating value of male creativity is a powerful tool to attract women. Please feel free to share this article with a friend and/or your social network, thanks for visiting, also you're most welcome to follow me!

Sunday, November 16, 2014

4 Easy Ways to be More Assertive with Women

In this post, we will be discussing why women love assertive men, and ways to be more assertive to attract women. Get into the habit of asserting your own opinions, and making decisions about what to actually do on your dates.

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Being Assertive
Decisions such as: Where to go on dates, what movie to watch, which restaurant to eat at, and what time and day to have the date. 

Of course you can be considerate and ask for her preferences, what I'm referring to is showing your assertiveness through a display of leadership skills. I have never come across a woman that wants a follower, women want leaders.


Assertiveness, Self-Assurance And Leadership Skills in Men

No, you do not have to be the boss in a street gang nor a commanding officer in the military or the CEO of a Fortune 500 company(not to say those things aren't helpful), the specific leadership skills I'm talking about is leadership skills in a possible relationship.

Women aren't attracted to men with no backbone, or guys who aren't self-assured enough to make decisions and stick with them.

Here are a few ways men can be more assertive:

1. The restaurant brings you "not exactly what you ordered", politely tell the waiter so, most guys would not say anything, and that's the exact attitude that will let people think they can walk all over you, if you don't speak up. 

Please remember that human beings, generally just can't help themselves to walk over someone that presents themselves as a doormat.

2. The boss insists for the second weekend in a row for you to work overtime, again 'politely' and respectfully say "no, I can't". 

He will respect you more in the long run, and he might begin to ask more for your input, cause he knows you're self-assured enough to speak your mind.(please use proper judgment, I'm not keen on possibly getting someone fired here)

3. Be more direct with what you want from people, if you set a date with a woman, calmly tell her to be on time, if she fails to do so, again calmly tell her "this probably won't work if you're not punctual". 

This sends her the right messages. I've had many successes saying this to a woman, it also gives them a challenge, which women enjoy.

4. Improve and control what your eyes convey to other people, you can receive a magnitude of information from what you glean from someones eyes. 

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being more assertive
Some people are so trained and/or observant, they can tell if you're upset, offended, nervous, unsteady, inebriated, unsure, resentful, impatient and the list goes on and one.

Oh, and women are observant as a hawk with a telescope.

It's should be easy to see why women love assertive men. Please feel free to share this article with a friend and/or your social network, thanks for visiting, also you're most welcome to follow me!

Saturday, November 15, 2014

How to Build Self Confidence in a Relationship

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confidence building
If I would have to choose one great quality that attracts women, it would be, hands down, confidence.

There is no substitute to winning the affections of women than genuine confidence. 

Easier said than done, I know. It took me awhile to build up my confidence enough to even talk to women.

But trust me, it's like riding a bike or learning how to swim, once you learn to communicate with women properly and effectively, you'll never forget. 

If you're starting without much confidence, you'll have to begin with yourself. Learn to value yourself, because if you fail to, how do you expect a woman to value you? 

Embrace a new attitude, be proud of the things that you are good at, and develop the mindset that whatever you put your mind to, you can achieve it. 

Sometimes it's worthwhile and effective to exhibit the outward symptoms of confidence to give you a head start. It's "fake until you make it", so to speak.

Ways to Boost Your Self-Confidence:

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building self confidence
  • Make new editions to your wardrobe, dressing a little better and differently than you usually do will signify change, not just to others, but most importantly to yourself. Have a female friend help with your new clothes, fresh, stylish attire will boost your self-esteem and propel you in the right direction
  • Following up on your new fashionable digs, consider a hairstyle change. The idea is to rid yourself of any trepidation, or self-doubt that you can change. When you look in the mirror, your eyes will see change and your mind will follow suit.
  • Learn to speak up for yourself, have your own opinions and contribute to conversations around you, with the people around you. Life isn't a spectator sport, you have to get your ass and get in motion. (That's another point I will get into later, that men with no goals or exhibit little passion for life never end up with great women)
  • When you walk into a room, other people will consciously and subconsciously make a note of how you carry yourself, especially women. It's just a fact of life that most humans will sum you up in less then a few minutes, it's a shame, and I understand that can suck. But what you are in control of is the few minutes you get to make a lasting impression. Wall tall and proud, and slowly, don't just zip across the room. Don't flail your arms or cross them, be relaxed and take time and pride in every stride.
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improving self confidence
  • Exercise and make a goal to get more fit, a better body image of yourself will go a long way to an increased sense of self worth. Additionally, you'll achieve a small goal, and reaching small goals will lead to bigger goals. Most people who are healthy and physically fit have a better chance of maintaining confidence, success in all facets of life, and a more fruitful connection with women. 

These are simple ways to improve your self confidence in a relationship. Please feel free to share this article with a friend and/or your social network, thanks for visiting, also you're most welcome to follow me!

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