Thursday, December 4, 2014

3 Simple ways Men can Respect Women Better

Women want men to respect them
Why respect is important to a woman
Always be respectful of a woman you're dating, very important factor to a woman if you'll possibly be kept around for the long haul.

A woman that is worth your time and adoration will demand respect, especially from possible boyfriend material. 

I've had plenty of 'bad boy' friends that picked up women constantly, but never really had meaningful relationships. I believe for the most part by way of observation, their continual disrespectful behavior ruins it for them.

I think it's perfectly okay to be a bad boy, even advantageous when it comes to attracting women. However, without a sufficient amount of tact, sensitivity and respect, a quality woman won't stick around.

I want to reiterate that I write about issues and advice for men to attract, date, and land in stable, healthy relationships, not pick up women for fornication purposes.

Not to say fornication can't be apart of a healthy relationship, it actually helps to have a high degree on intimacy with your partner.

Moving on..When I say "respect", I mean respect for a woman's time, for her feelings, and respect for her space.

How to Treat a Woman with Respect

  • Treat her like a person, not an object. There's nothing more resentful to a woman than finally figuring out that she's nothing more to you than a conquest or another notch on a belt. I've seen this first hand, and it's never pretty. So avoid this altogether by meeting and dating women you're actually attracted to..mind and body.
  • Give her unique and appropriate compliments. Is there something in particular that she excels at? Is she funny in a one-of-a-kind way? Does she put together the kinds of outfits that highlights her adorableness? Tell her so.. These observant and unique compliments does wonders in sending her the right messages about you.
  • Know when to give her personal space. Woman that live productive and vibrant lives have other things to do, other friends to touch base with, a career to focus on, grades to keep up, hobbies to partake in, etc. When you're constantly calling her or asking what she's doing, it sends the wrong messages to her. Unless you're in a mutually loving, head over heels relationship, learn to mitigate your eagerness.

Another great way I incorporate showing a woman I can be respectful is to introduce her to my mother or my sister(after a sufficient amount of dating of course, and established mutual feelings).

This always pushes my status with a love interest into steady boyfriend contention.

When a woman sees that I treat my Mother and sisters with the utmost of respect and consideration, she'll be keen on getting closer to me and will want take the next step into a relationship.

These are simple ways men can respect women better. Please feel free to share this article with a friend and/or your social network, thanks for visiting, also you're most welcome to follow me!

Wednesday, November 26, 2014

Women want Security, Emotional Safety, and Stability from a Relationship

women want financial security in a relationship
Importance of security in a relationship
No matter how often women want to deny it, every woman wants to be and feel protected.

 They want to feel perfectly safe with someone, and there's nothing more endearing to a woman than feeling protected.

Perhaps on a first date you can take her to do something exciting, i.e. indoor sky diving, or to a theme park with really scary roller-coasters, or to a very lesser extent, a scary horror movie.

Wait for an appropriate time and mood to tell her that "you're safe with me". Do this subtly, not like you had it planned.

When I mentioned security, I meant financially. It's a hard truth that being secure financially is a major requisite of commitment for a woman.

Especially as we get further into the information age. I personally know many women that will not even consider going on a date with a man that doesn't have steady employment and a solid direction in life.

Although this is more anecdotal evidence, I highly doubt that it's just mere coincidence.

For me personally when the tables are reversed, I would rather be involved with a woman that had a steady career, with her own life, doing her own things.

It's just so much more attractive in my eyes. An articulate and gorgeous woman that can also pick up a check is sexy to me.

However, you will do well to keep in mind that not all women are alike, therefore not all women can be painted with the same brush, in a sense. This also includes a mental and emotional stability.

Women need to feel a sense of security, emotional safety, and stability in a relationship. This is of course only if the woman in question is ready for a serious commitment.

Women that are still playing the field and currently in the dating phase will not necessarily require any of these male attributes.

So, if you're looking for the right woman to settle down with, work on possessing and displaying these three traits women look for in men.

Thus, it's easy to see why women want security and emotional stability from a relationship. Please feel free to share this article with a friend and/or your social network, thanks for visiting, also you're most welcome to follow me!

Wednesday, November 19, 2014

The Mating Value of Male Creativity

This post deals with the mating value of male creativety. Not just women are drawn to people who are refreshingly original, everyone, man or woman can appreciate an individual that stands out in the crowd.

Women want fun and creative guys
Women love being around creative men
Being original also applies to how you plan your dates. For heaven sake, unless your date specifically asks to be taken to a dinner and a movie, take some time and figure something better to do on a date.

Here's a case in point to always listen to a woman you're interested in, so you can pick up what she likes, and what she doesn't like.. Honestly? I believe everyone has originality to them no matter how well it's hidden.

What you should really focus on, beside listening to self-appointed gurus that claim originality can be manufactured, is to be honest with yourself and learn how to express yourself without approval from others, especially the opposite sex.

"You'll never break any ground on finding the right woman for yourself, if you can't present to the world who you really are."

Be Original and Exude Creativity

Like your innate originality, I also believe that everyone is creative, but for a plethora of reasons will be hesitant in truly expressing themselves.

Everyone is different, so please keep in mind that I can only speak upon generalities, and not specifics.

Here are some methods to aid you in discovering your creative side:

1. Experiment. If you're starting from the bottom with no clue what your creative outlet is, you'll have to forge ahead and find out.

At the very least you can do a little research and find out what you possibly could be interested in--this is the information age, if you can't go on the internet and find something you're remotely interested in, you'll have more serious concerns than finding a date.

2. Share. For every interest there is on this planet, there's a group designed around that particular interest. Get out there and find an organization that is revolved around your shared field of interest. 

On the web, there's a digital club, group, or forum for virtually everything, join up and share. This will help build your confidence and there's a good chance you'll meet a woman with something already in common with her.

3. Family and friends. Simply ask people that you trust and confide in what makes you creative in their eyes.

The people you keep around you know you the best, and should be able to give you great leads to find your creative outlet, once you find out what it is, incorporate in into your dating life. The more versatile you become, the less one-dimensional you will be to a woman.

The mating value of male creativity is a powerful tool to attarct women. Please feel free to share this article with a friend and/or your social network, thanks for visiting, also you're most welcome to follow me!

Sunday, November 16, 2014

Why Women Love Assertive Men

In this post, we will be discussing why women love assertive men, and ways to be more assertive to attract women.
How to be more assertive to women
Being assertive to attract women
Get into the habit of asserting your own opinions, and making decisions about what to actually do on your dates.

Decisions such as: Where to go on dates, what movie to watch, which restaurant to eat at, and what time and day to have the date. 

Of course you can be considerate and ask for her preferences, what I'm referring to is showing your assertiveness through a display of leadership skills. I have never come across a woman that wants a follower, women want leaders.

Assertiveness, Self-Assurance And Leadership Skills in Men

No, you do not have to be the boss in a street gang nor a commanding officer in the military or the CEO of a Fortune 500 company(not to say those things aren't helpful), the specific leadership skills I'm talking about is leadership skills in a possible relationship.

Women aren't attracted to men with no backbone, or guys who aren't self-assured enough to make decisions and stick with them.

Here are a few ways men can be more assertive:

1. The restaurant brings you "not exactly what you ordered", politely tell the waiter so, most guys would not say anything, and that's the exact attitude that will let people think they can walk all over you, if you don't speak up. 

Please remember that human beings, generally just can't help themselves to walk over someone that presents themselves as a doormat.

2. The boss insists for the second weekend in a row for you to work overtime, again 'politely' and respectfully say "no, I can't". 

He will respect you more in the long run, and he might begin to ask more for your input, cause he knows you're self-assured enough to speak your mind.(please use proper judgment, I'm not keen on possibly getting someone fired here)

3. Be more direct with what you want from people, if you set a date with a woman, calmly tell her to be on time, if she fails to do so, again calmly tell her "this probably won't work if you're not punctual". 

This sends her the right messages. I've had many successes saying this to a woman, it also gives them a challenge, which women enjoy.

4. Improve and control what your eyes convey to other people, you can receive a magnitude of information from what you glean from someones eyes. 

Some people are so trained and/or observant, they can tell if you're upset, offended, nervous, unsteady, inebriated, unsure, resentful, impatient and the list goes on and one.

Oh, and women are observant as a hawk with a telescope.

It's should be easy to see why women love assertive men. Please feel free to share this article with a friend and/or your social network, thanks for visiting, also you're most welcome to follow me!

Saturday, November 15, 2014

How to Improve Your Self Confidence in a Relationship

Lack of self confidence in relationships
Women want men with self confidence
If I would have to choose one great quality that attracts women, it would be, hands down, confidence.

There is no substitute to winning the affections of women than genuine confidence. 

Easier said than done, I know. It took me awhile to build up my confidence enough to even talk to women.

But trust me, it's like riding a bike or learning how to swim, once you learn to communicate with women properly and effectively, you'll never forget. 

If you're starting without much confidence, you'll have to begin with yourself. Learn to value yourself, because if you fail to, how do you expect a woman to value you? 

Embrace a new attitude, be proud of the things that you are good at, and develop the mindset that whatever you put your mind to, you can achieve it. 

Sometimes it's worthwhile and effective to exhibit the outward symptoms of confidence to give you a head start. It's "fake until you make it", so to speak.

Ways to Boost Your Self-Confidence:

  • Make new editions to your wardrobe, dressing a little better and differently than you usually do will signify change, not just to others, but most importantly to yourself. Have a female friend help with your new clothes, fresh, stylish attire will boost your self-esteem and propel you in the right direction
  • Following up on your new fashionable digs, consider a hairstyle change. The idea is to rid yourself of any trepidation, or self-doubt that you can change. When you look in the mirror, your eyes will see change and your mind will follow suit.
  • Learn to speak up for yourself, have your own opinions and contribute to conversations around you, with the people around you. Life isn't a spectator sport, you have to get your ass and get in motion. (That's another point I will get into later, that men with no goals or exhibit little passion for life never end up with great women)
  • When you walk into a room, other people will consciously and subconsciously make a note of how you carry yourself, especially women. It's just a fact of life that most humans will sum you up in less then a few minutes, it's a shame, and I understand that can suck. But what you are in control of is the few minutes you get to make a lasting impression. Wall tall and proud, and slowly, don't just zip across the room. Don't flail your arms or cross them, be relaxed and take time and pride in every stride.
  • Exercise and make a goal to get more fit, a better body image of yourself will go a long way to an increased sense of self worth. Additionally, you'll achieve a small goal, and reaching small goals will lead to bigger goals. Most people who are healthy and physically fit have a better chance of maintaining confidence, success in all facets of life, and a more fruitful connection with women. 

These are simple ways to improve your self confidence in a relationship. Please feel free to share this article with a friend and/or your social network, thanks for visiting, also you're most welcome to follow me!

Tuesday, October 21, 2014

How to Use Sexual Communication to Attract Women

Why is sexual communication important?
Attracting women with sexual communication

Inner and Outer Persona of Sexual Communication

It takes a much trained and experienced eye to catch Sexual Communication in action. 

I'd wager that it is going on all around you, at school, at work, the laundry, the post office--basically anywhere males and females are present.

Sexual Communication is so simple that any one too involved in normal conversation, will easily overlook it. But one of the things that make Sexual Communication so complex is that most people do it, but really have no idea of their actions.

Have you ever known a guy so average in the looks department, but excelled at picking up women? Sure you have, I'm sure all of us guys know at least a couple of guys who can pick up women with relative ease.

What's their secret, how do they do that..?! The funny thing is that most guys aren't even aware of how they're doing it.

The guys, who actually are aware, do not understand the core reasons why it works so well. There are essentially two layers of the human persona that drive us:

Outer Persona(social persona) There's the outer persona that we have cultivated all our lives to fit social situations. This outer persona, better known as the "social persona" is presented to other people, mostly strangers we're not too familiar with.

Think of this social persona as a shield against embarrassment, humiliation from people that might laugh at us or belittle us in some way.

This social persona follows a set of social rules to protect the "inner-self" which also can be referred to as the "inner persona".

Inner Persona(inner-self) This inner persona is responsible for all of our desires. Such needs as air, food, water, acceptance and most notarized... SEX.

The inner-self comes hardwired into our brains, it's a constant. Sexual Communication is about breaking through the outer persona, and getting straight to the inner persona.

If you use Sexual Communication the correct way, women will become sexually attracted, even if they had no romantic intentions for you.

The Natural: How to Effortlessly Attract the Women You Want


Attraction is not Based on Logic

You must also understand that attraction is based on emotion, not so much logic. Let me give you an example that you might be too familiar with:

Have you ever had a woman you were trying to become an item with, or just trying to save a relationship from ending?

Keep in mind that you're so overwhelmingly smitten with this certain woman, you'll ramble anything to try and save it.

You start using the logic side of your brain, explaining to her all the logical reasons why things should progress or reasons why things should work out. But it all ends the same doesn't it..?

How to use sexual communication

The more you try and reason with her, the more distant she gets. One lesson you should take to heart, when it comes to attraction, women will throw logic to the wind.

To exercise Sexual Communication properly, you must have this mindset that when it comes to women, logic is a dull weapon.

I believe that everyone is born with the innate ability to communicate in a way that will have women feel sexual attraction within minutes of contact.

But in these days of society, culture, religion, it has been buried deep within us. Almost to the point where we are strangers to our own natural abilities.

This section is also about unlocking this deep, hidden potential. This naturally sexual magnetism is in us all. These are the basic steps of Sexual Communication.

1. The initial encounter [approaching women] When you approach a woman you're interested, you approach with a great, what ever happens-happens mindset. You have the "who cares" attitude brimming. You hold the eye contact without looking away. The confidence of your body language is irresistible. In short, you walk with no fears, and no expectations.

2. The initial opening[conversation] You speak in a voice tone that demands attention, and whatever you say seems to go straight to her core, reaching her in places men not even dare. You communicate in a way so different from the rest of the men that approach her on a daily basis. Men that say the same things, with the same shaky, nervous demeanor. You're cocky AND funny.

You say things that she does not expect, but you also make her laugh out loud. You know that the initial opening shouldn't be too long, or you risk losing the prospect. So you move in for the "closer".

3. The closing [ending the interaction first] You look at your watch, and pause but for a moment. You say "Well I have to get going" or somewhere along those lines. You turn and slowly walk away. You give her the 3 second rule to stop you and ask for your number.

But if she does not for some reason, you know you'll go to plan B. Plan B is to turn after the 3 second grace period and say "Hey, do you have e-mail..?"

As she writes down her e-mail for you, you also use the "might-as-well write-your-number-down-too".

Considering you know it's natural for someone already writing down e-mail to write their number down as well.

Check out The Manual: What Women Want and How to Give It to Them


Confidence and Humor to Attract Women

Simply put, Confidence AND humor are what successful Sexual Communication is mainly about. Remember guys, confidence AND humor, I couldn't emphasize the "AND" enough.

You MUST be cocky AND funny. One without the other is just not enough. If you're too funny and have no confidence, you're just plain goofy. If you're cocky and NOT funny, you come off as an arrogant, snobby prick.

Being cocky and funny to attract women
Let's take a look at an example of Cocky & Funny (confidence & humor):

This is a true story by the way, from yours truly. I was at a Safeway and I had just finished using one of those CoinStar machines, so I took the receipt and was in line to collect my money. As I stood there in line, I noticed the cashier was a lovely female, she seemed VERY stressed.

So already she has her "shields" up. A guy about my age in line ahead of me was so nervous he kept fiddling with his keys (an obvious sign of nervousness) 

There was no way this guy wasn't interested in her. All the signs were there that he wanted to talk more about just what he was buying and how to pay for it.

But of course he fought with his own doubts, collected his balls and change and left without even trying. Shame huh? As I made eye contact with her, I held it until she looked away first. 

This somehow stunned her; I suppose no guy has ever showed such confidence as to look at her without flinching. This somewhat lowered her defenses quite a bit... She gave me a warm smile and greeting "How are ya today"?

Without a smile or smirk, I said in a cocky-confident tone, "You can change this for me, it's from your slot-machine over there Motioning towards the Coinstar machine that changed my coins. 

This simple, cocky-toned, funny comment just lit her eyes up. I knew what she was feeling and what she was thinking. 

It was clear she was attracted, it was also clear what she was thinking: THIS GUY IS DIFFERENT!!!

Before I left, I asked her for her phone#, she couldn't have given it to me faster. Before she whipped out her pen, I also decided to leave an imprint for her. 

I batted away her pen and gave her my cell phone, and told her to punch in her number herself, and said something like, "Here, just put your number in, because I might just throw the paper away, but hurry, I'm in a rush". 

Needless to say, this left a definite impression.

Perfect example of cocky & funny in a situation where nothing else would have worked. It's a form of flirting that 85% of male population still does not understand. This is another advantage to all that are reading this now. 

Trust me when I tell you that women are searching, hoping that the 5-15% of males who "get it" will come into their lives and sweep them off their feet.

Learning how to use sexual communication is integral to attracting women. Please feel free to share this article with a friend and/or your social network, thanks for visiting, also you're most welcome to follow me!

Sunday, September 14, 2014

The Qualities Women Look for in Men

What are the qualities women look for in men they want to date? There's really no absolute statement one can make on the matter, all women are different and should not be painted with the same brush. 

Not every single woman will have the same preferences. There's no certainty in success when approaching or pursuing any woman, period.

But there is a standard formula of character traits and mannerism, and that can make the thin difference between failure or success.

In the world of attracting and dating women, confidence is king.

Women want men with confidence

Have Confidence in Yourself - Women Crave men with Confidence

It has been the the attraction bed-stone that has been relevant for millions of years, up to this very day.

It's also next to impossible to hurt your chances when it comes attracting women and keep them romantically interested in you.

It's a daunting task to initiate conversations and banter with a woman, but if you're not even trying, you have to admit to yourself that there's a problem.

If you have problems with self esteem and maybe you're even a little awkward in social situations, doesn't mean you should sit by, while life is slowly getting away from you, life isn't a spectator sport.

Every person you decide not to talk to, every girl you don't try with, you're in essence writing the script of your life.  

Love Yourself Like Your Life Depends On It

Here a few ways to start boosting your self esteem and ultimately, your confidence in interacting with more women.

  • Consider getting a new wardrobe, dressing with a little more flair, often a complete change in clothes and style will make you feel better with your image. With one small improvement in self worth, you'll be more motivated to keep improving. Life isn't about perfection, it's about improvement.
  • Be mindful of the body language you're giving off, everyone has some degree of skill in reading body language, it's not difficult to tell when someone is unhappy, excited, or uncomfortable. Being comfortable, and looking it and important in exuding confidence.
  • Be more assertive. You need to speak up if you expect to be heard, or you if you feel your opinion should matter. Learn to naturally assert your opinion into a conversation, contribute to it, cause the fact is, the friends you have, the more opportunities there will be to connect to a woman.

These are the primary qualities women look for in men. Please feel free to share this article with a friend and/or your social network, thanks for visiting, also you're most welcome to follow me!

Calling a Woman and Asking her Out After Getting her Number

How to talk to a woman on the phone
How to get a woman's number
This post is about calling a woman and asking her out, after getting her number. Women don't generally hand out their number, without good cause or reason. 

Women in this day and age are more weary of men and their intentions.

Time's have changed and it one can't adapt to the new dating scene, one will not thrive or have success with women.

Also, the fact that even if a woman did give you her number, there's no guarantee that she's ever going to pick up when you call, let alone be interested in dating you. Being handed a way to contact a woman again is just the first hurdle among many.


Getting a Woman's Number isn't Easy

After successfully charming a woman to give out her phone number, the next step is incredibly important and will set the tone for failure or the possibility of a first date and ultimately connecting with a woman you're romantically interested it. 

Sometimes women will be in a different state of mind when you contact them, maybe she won't be as social or friendly, you just never know.

Good rule of thumb is to not have high hopes or expectations, yes I said NOT to have wild expectations.

Having expectations will inevitably make you seem too eager, and eagerness to a woman will be translated into desperation. 

If you're reeking of desperation, it's like a repellent for quality, worthwhile women. It's very important to build attraction with her early and set a tone that you're not in a rush to date. 

Things never to say or do when talking to a woman to ask her out..

  • Don't show too much interest, unless the woman displays interest in you first.
  • Don't call a woman too often, if she fails to answer, leave a quick message, and give her a sufficient amount of time to get back to you. Under no circumstances call a multitudes of times in one day.
  • Do not be disrespectful, no woman anywhere appreciates feeling disrespected.
  • Don't ask for a date right away, talk first, get to know her. Then when you're a having a good moment in the conversation, that is the time to strike.
  • Do not be too timid, women like a guy with a little backbone. If she senses weakness in you, it will greatly hamper your chances of getting past the first phone call with her.
  • Keep the conversation light, and fun. Women don't want to talk about something serious with someone they just met and barely even know.
  • If a woman is busy, or has to get off the phone, respect that, and give a woman her space.

If you do get to a first date, try to keep in mind that women want things to develop naturally, don't try to push things faster than she's willing to go, keep a slow and steady pace.

Women will respect you more for not being in a rush, and will take it as a sign of a guy with options.

Calling a woman and asking her out after getting her number should be exciting, not stressful. Please feel free to share this article with a friend and/or your social network, thanks for visiting, also you're most welcome to follow me!

Sunday, August 17, 2014

How to use Body Language to Attract Women

Positive body language to attract women
Attracting women with body language
Using Body Language to Attract Women

This post will deal with using body language to attract women, which is in part the physical aspect of sexual communication.

Body language is very, very critical for building chemistry and sexual tension. Without sexual tension there's a slim chance for intimacy. In conjunction with body language, we will discuss how to take things to a more physical level with reduced risk of rejection.


Eye Contact to Attract Women

You’ve probably heard of the importance of eye contact, but let’s clarify its role and significance.

First rule of eye contact, do not dart your eyes around from object to object, this oozes of nervousness and insecurity.

Eye contact also reveals how secure you are in yourself, what kind of self esteem you’re working with and most important how confident you are. When locking eye contact with a woman, hold your gaze.

As you make initial eye contact with a woman, do not look away until she looks away first. This sends all the right messages to a woman.

It shows that you’re confident, that you’re not afraid of her, and it sets up a better chance she will be more susceptible to your advances. Last pointer on eye contact, move your eyes slower and blink less.


Using Proper Posture to Attract Women

Wherever you go, walk tall, walk as if you’re the most confident man alive. Raise your chest at a comfortable level, square your shoulders, and hold your head up high. Never look down to the floor.

Walk slowly; never speed around like you’re in a rush. A man that takes his time walking shows self confidence and sophistication.

When you sit across from a woman, never lean forward. Always lean back, relax, and be comfortable with your surroundings.

No quirky movements with your limbs, and do not fiddle with small inanimate objects,such as your keys, a pen, etc.

Men who look to the sides are nervous, lying, or distracted. Your body cues tell everything a woman needs to know about you, women are very observant.


Male Voice Tone to Attract Women

Voice tone can works miracles. From my personal experience I knew this fact long before I read and researched about it. I would use a certain voice tone on women that just made them “weak in the knees”.

That’s quoted from a girl I went out with a while ago. “Weak in the knees" Powerful stuff guys, powerful. If you have an unusually high-pitched voice, try to deepen your voice by speaking from your chest and stomach.

High pitch tones to a woman’s eardrums are by no means, sexy. Your voice pattern should flow like music to her ears, use voice tone as a sexual weapon.

Voice tone also conveys confidence, and we all know by now how important confidence is, don’t we? Learn to pause during some conversations, it makes everything you’re saying more dramatic.


Body Language with Arms and Legs

People who continually cross their arms and legs are shunning themselves to social interactions. Try keeping your limbs relaxed and from fidgeting. You’re shooting for a calm and collected mindset.

However some people just cross their arms as a habit, it may just mean that the person is reserved, or just cold. Use proper judgment.

If a person rests their arms behind their head or neck, they are genuinely open to what is being discussed.

There are some women that may point their feet to the direction of where they want to go or sometimes their interest. So if her feet are pointing at you, she may possibly be romantically interested.

Pay special attention to changes in body language rather than the body language itself. Be mindful of your own body language, see what message you’re giving off.

Mastering your body language will help you get to more second dates.

Hopefully, you have a better idea on how to use body language to attract women. Please feel free to share this article with a friend and/or your social network, thanks for visiting, also you're most welcome to follow me!

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